Thursday, February 24, 2011

Dear Robert Downey Jr.

You don't know me, I realise that, but I needed to talk to someone that I really trusted. I don't trust a lot of people. I guess you could say I have trust issues. However I would, I do, trust you with my heart - you seem like the type of guy I could relate to. Or maybe not - I don't know.

For the sake of this letter my nickname is Nyxie. I'm eighteen at the moment and living in the northern region of Ireland. I don't know where I'm going in life but I'm determined to make a change in the world. Somehow.

I have a big heart and this can be an awful thing, Mr Doweny Jr, believe me. Can I call you Robert? I hate to be disrespectful but it's easier. I've been hurt so many times that I have this wall around my heart. This wall is ten foot high and almost impossible to climb; but sometimes simple to crack. I've been hurt, yeah, but mostly I hurt myself. Apparently heartache and pain only lasts for 15 minutes and the rest is self inflicted. I don't know about that.

I messed up a lot, Robert. I started cutting myself when I was 8. I did drugs when I was 14. I smoked on and off from the age of 13. I've been drinking since 15 and I've tried to kill myself five times. I have recently given up both smoking and drugs. I broke hearts, I messed up my family; I made everyone ashamed. I seem to have this poison that just radiates from me, you know? I mess everything up Robert, I really do.

My family have always been this perfect little bubble. Tight knit and on top of one another. Then I came along. They never looked at me like anything. I was never smart enough, or pretty enough or anything. I made them all ashamed because I'm a suicidal mess, because I like men and women, because I'm not a traditional protestant and because I'm me.

I love my Daddy, I idolise him. But I feel like I annoy him. I definitely annoy my mother. She wants me gone, she always has. She, and the rest of my family, look down on me as if I were nothing.

I'm intelligent, really, I just don't like authority. I could talk to you all day about literature or philosophy or the human mind and body but I won't. I only talk about that shit in my blog because no one cares.

I'm sorry if this makes no sense. I didn't plan this letter - it happened and it's early in the morning and i'm just not great today. I'm not great any day Robert.

I guess I should expand on that.

So I've self harmed since 8 years old. I've tried to commit suicide. I've also been bulimic and anorexic. I didn't eat for years or I ate and threw up. I almost died. At that time I did the most drugs and drinking and cutting. It was then I tried to kill myself the most and when I wasn't doing it, I was thinking about it. I nearly died of natural causes; the heart stopping etc. I didn't, evidently but my hearts still fucked though.

I'm diagnosed with high end depression but I won't take my pills. I hate them. They never worked before - why would they work now?

I saw a counsellor and he looked just like you. Well almost. But I trusted him right off the bat because he reminded me of you not just in looks but everything else. I've never got on with any professionals before.

I don't think you need to hear any more about me. I still think of suicide a lot and that's the end of it. If I do it, I do it and if I don't then I want to be a counsellor. I want to make a difference by helping other people.

"The most screwed up people are the most honest."

That quote means a lot to me because it describes me in so little detail to a perfect, angular T.

On a more fan related note, although I promised I wouldn't bombard you with two much of either personal shit or 'I'MYOURBIGGESTFAN' shit. I am not your biggest fan but I do idolize you.

You're an inspiration. A great guy all round (in my eyes). You got over your demons and you've settled down with a lovely woman. You have a family and a career. I mean - man you're a legend. In my eyes you will always be a legend. Never change Robert, please. You're perfect and wonderful how you are.

I don't know why I wrote this or why it's going to you but I want to say I'm sorry for having done so. I say sorry a lot even when I don't need to. But it helped to get it all out. Slightly.

 Nyx